Personal Topic Day: Moving on.

G'day Everyone.

Two songs that are main point of this post. Both by David Cook. Lyrics included.

Links:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s9d52h5gXl0(LIFE ON THE MOON)

and

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=89VxthjMYKM&feature=related(My Last Request)

I have had friends, girlfriends, and ex-roommates move on in life without me, even if they didn't part friendly with me.

For many of my former friends I knew long ago, it makes hard to remember them, especially at the moment I get phone calls and text messages that tell me I have to come to a funeral for my friend. When I go to their funeral, it gets pretty emotional for me. It's like recalling the good days and bad days I had with my former friend. But when I reach the part where we moved on in life, for whatever what reason, from each other, it make want to reach out to that person and say "let's talk it out before part badly.". I have endured to sit and listen to many stories from many of our friends of what was said and done in the years after parting of ways. Some of it is painful to hear. But other parts, it's a bit of comfort to hear it.

Of my former girlfriends: it makes me regret of the friends, of who we had in our lives, are the ones that were very jealous of my engagement/relationship. They may have thought I wasn't ready for marriage or wasn't marriage material. But their decision to destroy my happiness has led to many of their own regrets. I have forgiven my former friends, but not sure how my ex-g/f feels. I have personally wished and blessed them to have an enjoyable life out there. One or two wished that they could have made a better decision to stay with me. I told them and said "you can't change what was already said and has already torn the heart of a person. You must live of what you have decided. Go heal. If your path leads you back to me in life, perhaps then it's meant to be". So far, I know for them it's not meant to be. I currently have someone right now that I already love. Who it is? I'm not saying....YET!

Of my roommates that I've had in life, I've had some fantastic ones that have made it an enjoyable time. Some of us are still life long friends.

But, out there are still 3 evil roommates that are hurting others. I have wished and prayed that God would lock up those villains for the crimes that they have committed in my home. But still I am happy that those very 3 people will face God one day and have a huge regret on their face.

While these 3 evil roommates had the nerve to ask me to remain in my home, I didn't have any choice. Denying them the permission was the proper thing to do. After all, their need for wanton destruction, property theft, and making my roommates break up friendship with me is all the reason why I have booted them to the street where they properly belong. Do I regret it? Hell, no. My only regret is that they're not in jail where they belong already.

Personally, when I heard CNN TV news this morning that we are in an age where we are doing digital dumping age of people from friendship or relationships.

I recall my own days, before this digital dumping age happens now, that we had a form of dumping a relationship or friendship. It was using the snail mail (slow) and the phone.

I was young and when I was new to the deaf community, my deaf pastor encouraged me to give up my hearing girlfriend, my high school sweetheart, and take a deaf girl to marry. So how did I dump her? Instead of going to her in person, which some people advise you to do, I called her up. To myself, I thought I did the right thing. But to her, it was the wrong thing. I never knew that she loved me so much, she almost took her life. I never found out until the 15th High School reunion of what had happened. Not only I am angry at my former deaf pastor, but I am filled with regret in life too.

Today, we are choosing to dump people by using: Social Media Network sites, Email, Text Messages, blogging, cell phoning, and by word of mouth. What has happened to common sense? Whatever happened to respect that you should go to your friend in person and say WHY you are leaving them? Don't do it anger. But do it honestly. Do it in the right way, in person. By doing that, you will live with less regret.

I know some people have already either dumped me or moved on in life from me with out telling me or by just an email (nasty type). I have personally begged them to meet me in person before they did the complete break up. But, I would later find out through friends that some live with regret and that they want to find a way to reconnect. I have often reached out to reconnect with them. But its their decision to make the choice to accept it or not.

Whatever your choice of method for moving on, just make sure you are not doing it out of feelings of revenge or vengeance. Be honest. As I've said, do it in person and honestly. Talk it out. Part friendly. You never know when you may need this person again in your life.

Semper FI.