UN-divorce? no. Divorce is a MUST DO!

G'day Everyone.

This morning I'm pissed off. The phone rang and when I answered it, my friend was on the line. He and I had planned to be together for the day and do things. I was looking forward to it. He launches into the good morning greeting. But then, after a brief pause of himself, that's when I knew and silently muttered to myself "oh please, not crystal".
He knows I'm going to get pissed. Then he says "Crystal needs help and wants to be with me for the day and over night...". I cut him off in mid-stride and said "Do me a favor. When yer not fucking another man's pussy, call me when you have shut that damn cell phone off from her and we can do something together". Then I hung up in his ear.

Here is the big mess in America today: UN-Divorce. Read the article about it:
http://www.politicsdaily.com/2010/08/02/the-un-divorce-when-leaving-your-marriage-is-just-too-much-wor/?icid=main

When someone doesn't officially divorce their spouse or partner, it creates problems down the road for the prospective person and the prospective person's friends. Morals become involved. Un-divorce doesn't mean you are un-married in an official sense of word. YOU ARE STILL, in every legal sense of word to everyone else, MARRIED TO THAT PERSON! Until you file for divorce, you are still married.

So, my friend has been committing adultery with this STILL MARRIED lady since the day she showed up at his work place and saw him. Someone told me, a friend of his in that work place, that when he was guiding this woman about the place for her orientation to work, she had openly said "oh, I definitely want that sweet man in me. He looks so cute, I'm gonna get him!".

When my friend told me what was going on, I've been trying to help my friend from day one of this mess. Since then, my friend's own personal life has gone out of control with this lady. Every time she speaks to him, she jumps. Even God has tried help by giving this lady's life more of her own trouble in her home and family. But ever since her own problems, she escapes to the arms and bed of my friend. I have grown increasingly sad for my friend.

So I'm going to say this: If you are thinking of un-divorce out there, just do yourself a favor and morally consider divorce if your marriage is over. Get to a lawyer, draw up a no-contest divorce, make good terms (that is you both want to remain together as friends), and sign the deal. It works better when you tell friends that you are officially divorce. Un-divorce doesn't mean you haven't un-married. You are still married.

I hope people with troubled marriages do the right and honest thing: get an official divorce degree.

But if you are a married person and messing around with single people, do me a favor: GO FIND A SEX TOY TO PLAY WITH! Much better and safer that way!

Semper FI!